Thoughts on guys and dating

My new motto is: "Fool me once, shame on you...Fool me twice, shame on me." I've dated lots of guys in the past five years and most have proven to be nothing more than dumb boys. Not ALL of them, but definitely the majority of them. These guys will do one or more of the following: lie, pretend to be someone their not and then pull a "Jekyll and Hyde" when you least expect it, throw tantrums when they don't get their way, lie some more, blame YOU for their own stupid actions, lie, say hurtful things, lie, lack the balls to own up to a mistake they have made, and then probably lie some more for good measure. Now, I may be coming off a little bitter against men (okay, very bitter) but i'm only saying all this because I've learned some things in my dating history that I'd like to share. Let me just say that I realize not ALL men are the same, and that girls can be just as horrible to boys, etc etc. YES I KNOW THIS, so do not leave negative comments about this. I've just listened to many of my friends talk about their guy problems throughout the years and saw things looking from the outside IN and at the time I wished I could solve their problems for them because I thought I had all the answers...and then I went through the same things myself and didn't realize until much later that I was making the same exact mistakes as my friends. These are just some truths that I think all girls should know: 1. Guys are simple. -Us girls like to over-analyze EVERYTHING, including boys we really like/are dating. Boys seem so confusing to us for this very reason but they AREN'T confusing at all; they are actually quite simple. If a boy isn't calling you to hang out, then he doesn't wanna hang out. If a guy bails on a date last minute and doesn't make it up to you BIG time fairly quick, then he probably doesn't like you all that much. I've watched many friends, and even myself, make excuses for this kind of behavior: "Well, he's just really busy..." Yeah he might be busy but if he liked you more he would make stuff happen. Stop waiting on men to act cause it will most likely never happen. MOVE ON. Plenty of fish in the sea! 2. Fool me once, shame on you...Fool me twice, shame on me -I've gotten pretty good at being able to see through a guy and whether or not he is full of shit, but there are those certain guys who seem really nice/sweet/charming and fool you into thinking they like you and that you like them and that things are good before pulling a "Jekyll and Hyde" that leaves you thinking 'WTF? What asylum did he escape from?' It's okay, stuff like this happens. Maybe he knew how to play the guitar or had really nice hair lol idk, or maybe you had a "connection" with him. Some guys put on an act to pull you in but it won't take long for the real them to come out. Just simply move on and laugh with your friends about it later. DO NOT give him a second chance. This may seem harsh, and you may start thinking "well, he was so nice before..." and start thinking that it's okay and that his good qualities override these new bad ones, but at this point it's only gonna get worse so drop him like a hot potato before you really get yourself burned. Don't overlook those red flags! Now I will end this rant by my favorite quote from the one and only Taylor Swift haha: “When I was a little girl I used to read fairy tales. In fairy tales you meet Prince Charming and he's everything you ever wanted. In fairy tales the bad guy is very easy to spot. The bad guy is always wearing a black cape so you always know who he is. Then you grow up and you realize that Prince Charming is not as easy to find as you thought. You realize the bad guy is not wearing a black cape and he's not easy to spot; he's really funny, and he makes you laugh, and he has perfect hair.” ― Taylor Swift